Outsourcing and asking for help
I already know this about myself though, especially in my personal life, when struggling with morning sickness and prenatal depression in my early pregnancy Mr T and I could have done with all the help in the world, a cleaner and a dog walker would have been a God send but I was embarrassed about “not being able to cope” so we struggled through. My fiercely independent streak is a double edged sword, it gives me the bullheadedness and determination to make things happen, it makes me very self-sufficient, I’ll turn my hand to pretty much anything but it also makes me a bit of a martyr. But… you know… I’m working on it.
I’m not alone in finding it hard to ask for help, whether its fear of seeming weak or needy or incompetent, fear of handing over control or fear of what we will have to give in return for the help we receive, seeking help can be scary.
As an aside - on my imminent to read list is “The Art of Asking” by Amanda Palmer, you can check out her brilliant TED talk here.
Oddly, I think if I was in a position in my business life to outsource I would see it as a real achievement, a mile stone. The company was successful enough to sustain not only me but others as well. What an AMAZING thing that would be. It’s weird that in my personal life I see asking for help as a failure and yet as a point of success in my business life.
When overcoming squeamishness about asking for help I remind myself of three things…
1) It’s not for me to do everything – everyone has their gifts and talents. It’s important to let others share theirs as it is to share my own.
2) Other people might actually enjoy helping me – I know when I’ve helped others it’s felt great and maybe letting people help me out might make them feel great too. Being helped could be FUN?!
3) What other people think of me is none of my business.
Nothing springs to mind right now about what I might outsource for my business, I can think of a number of things for my personal life – a cleaner, an occasional dog walker and someone to do the ironing. I think if I’m really going to get my business off the runway I may well need to outsource some of my “personal life” stuff to someone else.
So, tell me, what would you outsource? Do you also feel weird asking for help? How do you overcome it? Comment below!